Gushing is something mysterious for many of us. Don’t worry, for some things it is also for the scientific community.
Female ejaculation is usually called gushing. For many of us, it is something that makes us smile a little because we think of that famous scene from Sex & the City in which Samantha enters into a relationship with a woman, only to discover that in sex there is not much difference with a man: Ejaculation almost always surprises you, even when you get used to it.
Gushing naturally has a scientific basis to be understood, although, despite the many studies on it, researchers are not always completely in agreement on the origin and composition of the mood that is ejaculated. But there is one certainty: everything would go back to specific glands that are nothing more than our equivalent of the prostate. But how exactly does it all work?
What is gushing?
“Gushing” at this point is a sort of metaphor relating to what happens with female ejaculation. In ancient times, everything was traced back to the traditional lubrication that usually accompanies sexual intercourse. However, over time, it was noticed that much of the leakage of liquid was linked not so much to foreplay, but to the actual intercourse and even more to the moment of orgasm.
What allows gushing, we said, are glands, which are called Skene’s glands, which are made of the same embryonic tissue as the prostate and which are near what is usually referred to as the G-spot, near the lower part of the ‘urethra. The secreted liquid resembles sperm in its chemical and hormonal compositions, but there are also those who affirm, given its proximity to the urethra, that it may contain parts of very diluted urine.
Gushing, what it depends on
The reasons for gushing are not perfectly known, although the MySecretCase blog explains some of the conditions that could facilitate the phenomenon. Of course, we are not talking about those women in whom the glands responsible for the purpose are atrophied – not from poor use, but for purely biological reasons.
This blog talks about acquired squirters, that is, women who were unable to gush automatically and therefore tried and tried again, thanks to manual stimulation, to that with the partner’s penis and also with the help of special sex toys. The secret is to find the G-spot: a pity that for some it could be a mere myth. The other tips include drinking plenty of water before sexual intercourse – which actually, as readers of 50 Shades know well, also have the effect of causing greater pleasure and arousal during sex.
Surely the idea of trying and trying again is not bad – with sex, experimentation always represents an important (and fun!) Cognitive phase, especially of the self – but you shouldn’t despair if you can’t reach the moment of gushing. The risk is, in case of “failure”, to feel frustrated. But it’s not a failure, so we put it in quotes. It is simply one of those things that some women are able to do and others are not. But you don’t earn extra points like at the supermarket collection.
Sometimes we perceive sex as a race to do it better, but it is precisely not a race. You have to live in the moment, that’s what matters (but always remembering to use the brain and therefore protect yourself from sexually transmitted diseases).
Squirting and gushing: are there any differences?
Squirting and gushing are both terms that indicate female ejaculation – although perhaps in porn movies we have mostly heard of the former. For the layman, there are no differences, but some medical studies speak of slight differences between the two concepts, which in any case are not of much interest to us non-experts.